MODERATED DISCUSSIONS
The M/s Gathering
is different
The discussions are not a free for all. We use stacking, meaning individuals who want to speak raise their hand and are called on in order. We also limit the time each person can speak at 3 minutes at a time. This ensures that one or two individuals cannot hijack the discussion. Each room has a volunteer who serves as a discussion monitor, keeping track of the stacking and the time. The discussion leader begins each discussion and continues to interact through all the questions and comments.
Read on for a list of our discussion topics this year!
ICON KEYS
FRIDAY
9:00 AM
Master’s Circle
A support forum for all those who identify as or are curious about identifying as Masters. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, but stacking will be in place.
DELAWARE 1
slave’s Circle
A support forum for all those who identify as or are curious about identifying as slaves. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, but stacking will be in place.
WILMINGTON
FRIDAY
12:45 PM
Alignment vs. Obedience – Liza & her slave Jody
In this gently facilitated discussion, we will discuss the difference between and similarities of obedience and alignment of wills. We will be looking at these two approaches to constructing and managing hierarchical relationships and how these two seemingly different approaches can be used to enhance your dynamic.
DELAWARE 1
Recenter, Recover and Reconnect – Master IceDog & slave ravyn
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DELAWARE 2
Beyond the Red Ribbon – Daddy Rod
HIV and Sexually Transmitted Infections continue to impact many communities in our country, including the Leather Community. But what conversations are we having among ourselves to prevent its spread among our Brothers and Sisters? How do we stay safe as we negotiate our Kink Play? How do we do this in establishing our different relationships? How does stigma and ignorance keep us from talking about reducing risk in our everyday lives? “Beyond the Red Ribbon” is a facilitated discussion that will provide a forum for the community to explore and address the issues raised above.
WILMINGTON
Fellowship of the O-Ring – Slave Gaia Amor
Join me for the continuation of our discussion we started a few years ago regarding the elements of peer support and how we can better care for each other on this side of the slash. After a brief introductory social slave Gaia will facilitate a discussion on the following topics:
1. Trust and transparency
2. Reliability and dependability
3. Harnessing our strengths to care for each other
4. Selfcare
5. Kindness and compassion
6. Love and service in action
This discussion will take place over two time slots in order to allow us to really dig deep and support each other.
FRIDAY
2:15 PM
Spirituality in M/s: Dynamics that Connect with Something Bigger – Blind Dancer
This discussion will allow us to explore how spirituality can affect our dynamics. Areas of focus can include challenges of bringing spirituality into alignment between master and slave; how the M/s dynamic can deepen a spiritual path; dynamics involving worship; and using M/s to help accept and draw out inner divinity. The facilitator comes from a pagan background, but diverse spirituality is welcome and will be given space.
DELAWARE 1
Yoga Pants & Hockey Dad: Real Life M/s – Master Penguin & slave ginna
We all have the fantasy picture of what the perfect Power Exchange relationship looks like, with all the leather and chains. But when real life comes calling, the “real” dynamic tends to look a lot different. We discuss ways to ensure that your dynamics can still be fulfilling when wearing yoga pants instead of skimpy leather outfits. What about other everyday challenges like bills, jobs, teenagers, illness gets in the way of your relationship and connection.. With real life responsibilities like taking kids to scouts or band practice, how can the hockey dad and yoga pants mom make time to feed the dynamic that we envisioned in the beginning?
DELAWARE 2
M/s Solo – Jo Ann Wadsworth
What do you do when you are navigating M/s Solo?
In this session, we will be talking about the challenges we face when practicing Mastery/slavery without a partner. How do you keep motivated? How do you keep growing? Have you had someone say you are not really a Master or slave without a partner? How did you handle it?
Everyone is welcome, partnered or not.
WILMINGTON
Fellowship of the O-Ring – Slave Gaia Amor
Join me for the continuation of our discussion we started a few years ago regarding the elements of peer support and how we can better care for each other on this side of the slash. After a brief introductory social slave Gaia will facilitate a discussion on the following topics:
1. Trust and transparency
2. Reliability and dependability
3. Harnessing our strengths to care for each other
4. Selfcare
5. Kindness and compassion
6. Love and service in action
This discussion will take place over two time slots in order to allow us to really dig deep and support each other.
FRIDAY
3:45 PM
Finding a Worthy Partner – slave Jenna
Not everyone who calls themselves a Master/slave is one! While there is no secret formula or blue pill to take (wouldn’t that be nice?), there are ways to weed out the ones who are not worthy of you or your time. Learn some of the things you should be asking, both of yourself and of any potential new partner.
DELAWARE 1
The Unvarnished Truth of M/s – Lord Brick & slave lara
Why are We here?
Why do We do this?
What is the reality?
What does this really look like?
What are the challenges and pitfalls?
This is not all rainbows and unicorns! Let’s have a frank discussion about the unvarnished truth to better ourselves within our M/s relationships. This discussion is for all individuals whether in a dynamic or not.
Come to the table with your truth. What does your truth look like? This is not going to be a sugarcoated discussion. Nobody is perfect. Nobody is a perfect Master or slave. Let’s have a genuine discussion to learn and grow in our authenticity.
DELAWARE 2
Like Sands Through the Hour Glass – Master Lola Smiles
We enter an M/s dynamic to grow, learn, play, love, enjoy the lifestyle and as time goes on that bond grows and we grow older, our needs change, our goals change, our dynamic changes too. We will discuss the challenges of growing older and its effects on our dynamics, how to help your dynamic evolve as your lives evolves, what steps can be made to preserve the dynamic while accommodating for the changes that come with growing older.
WILMINGTON
Survivor’s Circle
A support forum for all the survivors out there. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, much like our Master and slave circles.
This circle will take place over two time slots.
DOVER
FRIDAY
5:15 PM
M/s as We Know It: Dream Bigger – Lady Catherine & Jack
Let’s have a provocative dialogue about M/s communities, groups, organizations, and individual contributions and participation. We will discuss what does and does not in social groups and events (this is not about blame but examination). Let’s explore what isn’t readily available currently which we would like to enjoy in our communities. Then let’s turn it around and have a look at how we show up. Do we choose to contribute or not? How might we participate in and with these social constructs? We will examine how the flow of each may impact our relationship(s), create happiness, support our choices, open the doors to alignment, or distance us from feeling we are a part of the whole. Let’s dig deep, see what we unearth, and dream big about what we can create when we get brave.
DELAWARE 1
Seeds, Chisels & Blunt Instruments: Training vs. Development – House Amor
Musician, instrument, canvas, painter, captain, crew, sculptor, sensei, devotee, acolyte, gardener, et al. represent just a few of the colorful (and tamer) metaphors used when we discuss how we come together in authority-based dynamics. One dichotomy that has evolved in M/s circles over the years is the concept of training vs. development. In this class we’ll look at the fundamental differences in these two approaches and why so many passionately align with one or the other. What are the strengths and weaknesses of each? How can a shift between them transform your relationship? Are they mutually exclusive or can they coexist within a dynamic? Join us for a deep dive at the juncture of M/s philosophy and practice. Learn which is right for you, and how the fluency model, “seed casting”, and more can support authority differential relationships.
DELAWARE 2
Service is for Anyone – Trouvere & Chanteause
What are some types of service that one can do? How does service differ for a Master and a slave? Do Masters serve? (Hint: See the course title) If so, what is the difference? We have opinions, but mostly we have questions to help you examine your opinion.
WILMINGTON
Survivor’s Circle
A support forum for all the survivors out there. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, much like our Master and slave circles.
This circle will take place over two time slots.
DOVER
Master’s Circle
A support forum for all those who identify as or are curious about identifying as Masters. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, but stacking will be in place.
DELAWARE 1
slave’s Circle
A support forum for all those who identify as or are curious about identifying as slaves. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, but stacking will be in place.
WILMINGTON
SATURDAY
12:45 PM
What Was/Is Your Slippery Slope – Lady Catherine & Jack
When you came to service and/or slavery were you apprehensive that you might lose part of who you are Or perhaps you felt that some essential facet of you would become invisible, unseen, and starve for lack of understanding and acknowledgement? Do you struggle if your slave assists you when you’re ill? Do you experience discomfort when ______ is offered to you as a service? Or is it…?
What belief or concern do/did you carry into your relationships? How did you begin to shift and change it to pursue your M/s? Join this class to explore individual and shared beliefs which create struggle and a lack of ease. Let’s communally create grace, understanding, and forward movement to the next stage without bringing some of those beliefs and doubts with us.
DELAWARE 1
Masters and their Disasters – Liza
Join Liza (International Master 2011 & 2021) for a masters-only discussion of our worst nightmares, when the train catches on fire and falls off the trestle and how we recover. We will discuss how to recover and grow from disasters, how to bank the lessons from triumphs, and how both are just part of the process.
DELAWARE 2
Trials & Tribulations of Dating While Poly – Master Lola Smiles
I am a married poly dominant leather female and I’ll be talking about the challenges faced when trying to date. Will discuss what polyamory is, the misconceptions people have about what being poly is, the stigma of what society sees married people dating and how to cope with the pitfalls of it all.
WILMINGTON
Deepening the Service – Stephan Dew and SweetWisteria
Join us for an insightful discussion on authority-based relationships, focusing on the dynamics between left side and their right side counterparts. Explore the nuances of accepting service and the joys of being served, along with practical tips for showing appreciation. We’ll delve into various types of service, highlighting the beauty of giving and receiving. Discover how the intention behind your actions can transform a simple task into a meaningful expression of care, even on the toughest days. This class offers a unique perspective on service, inviting you to deepen your understanding and practice in a supportive environment. Learn how effective communication can enhance these experiences, allowing for deeper connections and a more fulfilling dynamic.
This discussion will take place over two time slots.
SATURDAY
2:15 PM
Switch Circle
A support forum for all those who identify as or are curious about identifying as switches. This will be an informal gathering to share ideas, provide support, and have discussions. It is not a class, but stacking will be in place.
DELAWARE 1
Decision Making in M/s Relationships – Master Ben & Naomi
The presumption is that the Master makes all decisions. But is that the only – or best – model? What alternate methods exist and how do they “fit” within the M/s dynamic? How do relationship participants feel when the “classic” model isn’t adhered to? Do/should you consider decision-making style when determining the suitability of a partner?
DELAWARE 2
The Joy of Being Me – Daddy Rod
This workshop was inspired by a question Emilious Terr posed to me for a presentation to MAsT Hampton Roads: “What is the presentation that I have never given before?” So many times I have been asked to present about myself, and it has always been through the lens of struggle. No one has ever asked me about the joys of being me. Nor had I offered it… until that session. “The Joy of Being Me” is a celebration of who I am as a Black, Gay/Queer, Kinky, HIV-positive individual. It is also an invitation for participants to also look at these aspects of their own identities and speak to the things they celebrate about being who they are and embracing this aspect of their lives.
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Deepening the Service – Stephan Dew and SweetWisteria
Join us for an insightful discussion on authority-based relationships, focusing on the dynamics between left side and their right side counterparts. Explore the nuances of accepting service and the joys of being served, along with practical tips for showing appreciation. We’ll delve into various types of service, highlighting the beauty of giving and receiving. Discover how the intention behind your actions can transform a simple task into a meaningful expression of care, even on the toughest days. This class offers a unique perspective on service, inviting you to deepen your understanding and practice in a supportive environment. Learn how effective communication can enhance these experiences, allowing for deeper connections and a more fulfilling dynamic.
This discussion will take place over two time slots.
SATURDAY
3:45 PM
M/s, Traversing the Wild Edge of Grief & Finding Beauty in What Remains – Master Dante & Slave Gaia Amor
This is not a discussion only for those grieving, but anyone who knows someone who has, is, or will be. Which is to say, this is a topic for us all. Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong impact on our capacity for joy and well-being. Join us for a candid exploration of how grief can impact our dynamics, along with proven ways to recover from grief, understand our loss, and live with the things that cannot be fixed.
DELAWARE 1
Is No Ever OK from a slave to Their Master? – Liza & her slave Jody
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DELAWARE 2
Unpartnered M/s – RowanKylara
How do you maintain your positivity on your M/s journey while unpartnered? Let’s discuss ways to maintain a positive attitude while unpartnered on both sides of the slash.
WILMINGTON
Transparency – What Role Does it Play in Your M/s Dynamic – Master James & slave wendy
What is transparency in the context of M/s? Do you share everything with your M/s partner(s)? Why or why not? This is a facilitated discussion. Please come prepared to share your thoughts and from your M/s experiences.
DELAWARE 1
The Importance of the Family Table: Nourishing Connections & Values – Slave Beth
In this discussion, we explore the significance of the family table in fostering strong relationships, instilling values, and promoting well-being. Through shared meals, families create a space for meaningful connections, where communication flows freely and bonds deepen. We will share some of the cultural, psychological, and physiological benefits of gathering around the table, highlighting its role in promoting healthy eating habits, communication skills, and emotional resilience. Participants will gain practical tips for making family meals a cherished tradition in their households, enriching their lives and strengthening family ties. Join us to discover the transformative power of the family table in nourishing both body and soul.
DELAWARE 2
OY! MY BACK! Aging in the Realm of M/s & BDSM – Sir Nikolas
Many of the Masters, slaves submissives, Doms etc., that crowded the dungeons and leather events of the 80s and 90s (including Myself) are coming to an age where swinging a flogger or single tail may not be as easy as it used to be; perhaps O/our endurance has changed, the ability to kneel and formally present without needing help to rise among other issues of the aging process that may impede our ability to perform as W/we did in O/our younger days.
W/we will discuss prevention of dungeon play mishaps, creating new accommodations for an enjoyable and safe dynamic, handling urgent medical situations, designating a medical power of attorney, and discussing other difficult topics that affect us as W/we age and transition to another realm.
Please join Me for an opportunity to discuss these topics (and others) in a safe and non-judgmental space. Let us share some experiences or ideas ideas for O/ur ability to continue enjoying O/our love of this dynamic as W/we age gracefully and powerfully.
DELAWARE 3
When The Collar Comes Off – Stephan Dew & SweetWisteria
Master/slave, dominant/submissive, or any other name within a power relationships are intense relationships with so much emotion and work going into them. We become interdependant. How do we navigate these relationships when the collar comes off. When people look back with regret. What are the responsibilities of the people in a relationship. What happens if things turn ugly? How do we have the hard conversations? What happens to the community?
WILMINGTON
SUNDAY
11:15 AM
Can You Hear Me Now? – Master IceDog & slave ravyn
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DELAWARE 1
Evolution & Navigation – Lady Catherine & Jack
We’re going to mine the rich knowledge collected from BDSMClasses, M/s surveys, and the work Lady Catherine has done via her coaching and seminars for thirty plus years. We will focus on three specific, high-impact, yet regular, relational aspects correlated to time spent in M/s relationships. The conversation will allow a few potential lenses which are helpful to long-term relationships and possible paths to consider for those who have not yet experienced M/s in those time frames. Let’s dig deep together and help you reach your next levels.
DELAWARE 2
Consent is not a Big Deal…The hell it’s Not!!! – Master Lola Smiles
Being in a Power Exchange or M/s dynamic does not supersede someone’s right of consent. The ability & right to consent remains in full effect despite the dynamic you enter. Regardless of the crazy things we may do together in a dynamic, at the end of the day we are all humans whose voices matter, whose feelings matter, whose needs matter. All of the tasks, play, exchanges, and interactions we engage in require trust, communication, care, compassion, and knowledge from ALL parties.
WILMINGTON